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Right now a mother has been asked to make a choice. She must decide to either keep or abort a child that is different from her original plan. This baby will always be different and there is nothing she can do to change that fact. What has the doctor told her about this unborn child? Will she choose to take a different path or listen to society that says a Down syndrome child is already broken at birth? The hardest day of her life has suddenly been filled with everyone telling her that aborting this child would be best for her family.
I believed this lie for an entire year. An entire year of fatherhood was taken from me because I could only see my daughter as a disabled child that I had created. The happy moments I should have been enjoying the first year were masked by a deep depression that included thoughts of divorce and suicide. For 30 years I had believed a lie that special needs children were nothing more than a burden on their families and society. BUT my wife and daughter did not give up on me. My one-year-old daughter refused to stop loving me. She appeared to be like every other child but that voice kept telling me she was different. Finally after a year of depression something happened that spoke to my soul. My daughter leaned over and gave me a kiss suddenly without any warning. At that moment I knew my daughter needed a father and not another doubter.
Every mother must make a choice and I respect that difficult process. BUT I want every expectant mother to hear both sides of the story. Raising any child is difficult. BUT I can promise you that it makes me sick to think what beautiful moments I would have missed these past two years if I had taken a different path than staying with my daughter.
– Jack Barr Jr.